Nothing captures the imagination more than the sight of a newborn in your arms. The gaze of those pure eyes and the soft skin of your little baby fills you with baby bliss. However, this ‘bliss’ does not prepare you for what’s coming- a bumpy ride of parenting your baby through their first year of life.
Parenting is a skill that has to be learned so that a baby and parent can develop a strong emotional bond. You should appreciate that this attachment has to be cultivated patiently so that you can pick out and interpret your baby’s cues. Fit-Foodie-Mom-Life is a blog that covers adventures on motherhood and parenting, its a fantastic blog that gives a real perspective. Even if you’ve had a baby before, each baby has their own distinct persona and preferences which you have to learn, so what is the right parenting style you should adapt. I am sure you are guilty of reading endless books and blogs on the best way to parent an infant including conscious parenting, strict timetable feeding and nap times or have you thought about freestyle parenting? Read on to gain a broader perspective of whether parenting your little infant really needs to be as organized and forced as we are lead to believe. You can also check out worst advice about parenting, this covers things you definitely don’t want to be doing as parent!
Infants have different personas, learn your baby’s
Babies behave in their very own unique ways. One may be a very active baby who shouts out a lot whereas another could be composed and quiet, one could be very receptive while the next could be very wary of strangers. It’s up to a good parent to pick up these little cues. Watch out for facial expressions like little frowns that coincide with specific needs like hunger, wet diapers and colic discomfort. Smiles usually represent approval and joy. Familiarize yourself with baby’s cries-is it high or low pitch, is it a short cry or long cry? Babies usually let out a short cry to capture a parent’s attention whereas protracted high pitched cries mean ‘I’m hungry’. Take note of how they react to your touch and use it to generate comfort. Sometimes, a baby may cry and efforts to soothe them may be in vain. In such a scenario, shun excessive stimulation-let them cry it out.
Feeding time is a window for interaction
As you feed your baby ensure it is a pleasurable experience for both of you, not just ‘feeding time’ where it’s timetabled and anything that gets in the way is a disaster.
Talk to your infant by bubbling out some baby-talk, take the opportunity to teach him/her a few words, as this will improve their understanding of what you mean and vice versa. DO NOT force feed the baby, but gently encourage them to feed. This will test your patience but it is definitely going to help you better your parenting. Wear a smile when feeding the baby to nurture trust in the baby. To break the monotony, you may occasionally take a break to play peek a boo games but don’t overdo it.
Quit pursuing perfection
You may have promised yourself that you’ll be the best parent ever before your baby was born. Sooner or later you’ll realize that that’s easier said than done. Studies have shown that you only need to understand a third of your baby’s cues at any one time. Don’t kill yourself trying to attend to every little cry, just do your level best whenever possible and your emotional connect stays on track. One may assume that parenting is a simple task but that couldn’t be further from the truth, there are many parents out there with the same struggles, you can also follow talesfrommamaville.com for more tips and features about parenting. The important bit is to enjoy the roller-coaster ride, take it easy and ensure you enjoy spending time with your baby.